Q & A With The Author
About In Search of Rainbows: A daughter's story of loss, hope, and redemption...
Q. What inspired you to write a memoir?
A. I have always believed that if you learn something valuable in life, it is your duty to pass it on and share it with others. After my mother's death, writing became a big part of the healing process and helped me deal with difficult emotions. I realized there are many others who struggle with mother/daughter dysfunction, and it became important for me to share my personal story. For anyone who happens to find their own story in the pages of my book, my greatest desire is that they will find hope, encouragement, and perhaps a new perspective that will inspire their hearts!
Q. How did you come up with the name for the title of your book, In Search of Rainbows?
A. Rainbows symbolize promise, unity, and hope. It can also be thought of as a bridge, our connection to the deity of our understanding. For me, it represents a personal journey of transformation, the upholding of God's promise, and good things to come. It was the silver lining I searched for every day, which made it meaningful for my story.
Q. What advice do you have for others who may be considering writing a memoir?
A. Always write from the heart, be brutally honest, and don't be afraid of judgement. Chances are, there are many others who can relate to your story.
About Optimal Caregiving: A guide for managing senior health and well-being...
Q. Why did you decide to write a book for caregivers about managing senior health and well-being?
A. When I first began caring for my parents, I suddenly found myself in unfamiliar territory and often struggled to find the answers I needed to make informed care decisions. I am a seeker by nature, which led me to educate myself about everything from natural healthcare, nutrition, healthy aging, as well as how to be a good caregiver. I realized there is a growing population of caregivers, and I wanted to write the kind of book I wished I had and share it with others.
Q. What were some of the biggest challenges you faced when caring for both of your parents?
A. There were many, and the list seemed to grow almost daily. Some of the biggest challenges were learning about my mother's illness, my father's growing health issues, and finding the best ways to help them. Trying to be in two places at once was difficult, especially since my mother was in a care facility, and my father lived independently. Perhaps the biggest hurdle was the significant changes one faces when unexpectedly taking on the role of a caregiver.
Q. What was/is the most rewarding part of being your parent's caregiver?
A. Again, there were many. The life lessons I learned are invaluable, and I believe this experience has helped me become a better person. Caring for your parents as an adult creates a special bond, which enables a relationship on a much deeper level. The loving act of caring for someone does wonders for the soul. Just the simple satisfaction of knowing that you are part of a bigger life purpose makes it all worthwhile!
Q. How did you know you wanted to become a writer?
A. Ever since I could pick up a pencil, I loved to write. There is just something so special about putting your words on paper and giving them a voice. Over the years, I started writing in journals about things I learned, specific events, or just thoughts that needed to escape my head. When I started my "second act" after I began caring for my parents, it was a great outlet for me, and writing a book seemed to come naturally.
Q. What do you enjoy most about writing?
A. It brings out my inner creativity and allows me to exist entirely in my own world. I am basically a shy person, and I find that I express myself more easily through writing. Sometimes I enjoy writing the old-fashioned way by putting pen to paper rather than typing away at my keyboard. It helps when I get writer's block and gets the creative juices flowing again.
Q. How does it feel to finish a book?
A. It is a feeling of accomplishment that is hard to describe. It's almost like watching your child walk out the door on the first day of school. It's a bit scary, but most of all, I feel pride. I even cry, especially after working for more than two years on my memoir. It's very emotional!